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<h1 style="text-align: center;">Once A Cheater&hellip;Always A Guy Who May Get It Right The Next Time</h1> <p style="text-align: center;"><img src="https://media.istockphoto.com/id/2211408326/photo/young-woman-is-sitting-on-a-doorstep-holding-a-smartphone-and-looking-up.jpg?s=612x612&amp;w=0&amp;k=20&amp;c=oTkd1phu6AaUng0WDbcch4OUD9p_QkyEQiTM4hhQzz0=" alt="" width="800" /></p> <p>I&rsquo;m different than most guys. I have this whole blog where I confess to a lot of my mistakes I made in the past. As a matter of fact, I think I write more about how bad of a boyfriend I was more than I write about how good of a boyfriend I was, even though all of my exes would probably say I&rsquo;m not as bad as I make myself out to be.&nbsp; Call it accountability, call it humility, or call it something else, but I&rsquo;m more than aware of the fact that the reason my blog stands out is because not too many men are going to say they have done things I have done.</p> <h2>Why Most Men Keep Their Past to Themselves</h2> <p>The reason why? Some men would much rather learn the lessons of their past ways on their own than deal with a woman in the present who discredits him for what he did to someone else. We made a mistake and the last thing we want a woman to tell us is if we made it once, we&rsquo;re bound to make it again.</p> <p>Women have definitely said it to me when I told them I cheated in the past. They said once a cheater always a cheater. Were some of them right? Yes. Were some of them wrong? Yes. So now that we know it&rsquo;s not entirely some self-fulfilling prophecy, what to make of a man&rsquo;s past?</p> <h2>How Should We Regard a Person&rsquo;s Past?</h2> <p>Well, I for one would certainly start with suggesting no person should hold a person&rsquo;s past against them. More importantly, don&rsquo;t grill them on why they made certain decisions long before the present day. While I definitely think asking me questions about a past is legitimate, I fully expect the answers to not be held against me in the future.</p> <p>To explore the complexities of cheating across genders, check this <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2025/05/23/5-things-we-inherit-after-a-breakup/" rel="dofollow">reflection on breakups and emotional growth</a>.&nbsp;</p> <h2>Choosing a Partner With Flaws</h2> <p>The person who has made mistakes in their past is more comforting than the person who has never made any. Call me crazy, but if I had to take a chance on a girl who has never cheated and a girl who has, I would definitely pick the one who has. It&rsquo;s not that I prefer my girls flawed, but I don&rsquo;t believe in perfection, or at least, perfection for a lifetime. Give me the woman who knows what it&rsquo;s like to do something she shouldn&rsquo;t have done and has learned from her actions, over the woman who (allegedly!) has never made a mistake in her past relationships.</p> <p>Besides, if I&rsquo;m being completely honest, I probably wouldn&rsquo;t believe the woman who claims to have done no wrong. <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Bulgaria-dating-service.html?page=3">The idea of a single woman</a> who has never made a mistake, whether caught or unknown to the men in her past, is something like Santa Claus to me. I know it sounds like the words of someone who is cynical, but why should I believe anything different because she says so? Please. Too many women do not extend the same benefit of the doubt to men.&nbsp;For insights into emotional and masculinity challenges behind infidelity, read this <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2025/03/22/cheating-and-masculinity/" rel="dofollow">analysis on cheating and masculinity</a>.</p> <h2>Boundaries of Skepticism and Trust</h2> <p>Skepticism is understood, but distrust and pessimism is a deal breaker. If I wanted to be with a woman who didn&rsquo;t trust me I would have stayed with the girls whose trust I violated. I also certainly don&rsquo;t want to be with a woman who feels as though I&rsquo;m some special project she can take on; to treat me like a man who has a problem and sees herself as a solution. Such behavior is right up there with the women who believe I won&rsquo;t change at all. I have learned from my mistakes on my own, and the reason <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Portugal-dating-service.html?page=3">I would want to dating again</a>&nbsp;is because I&rsquo;m ready to apply what I have learned and be better than I used to be.</p> <p>I don&rsquo;t need a girlfriend to be my boyfriend tutor. <a href="https://www.loveawake.com/free-online-dating/Slovakia-dating-service.html?gender=female&amp;page=5">I need a girlfriend</a> to respect me as her boyfriend and recognize that in spite of my past, I&rsquo;m someone different. Do not mistake my ability to talk openly about past mistakes as a nonchalant attitude towards those mistakes. It&rsquo;s like men who have been to jail and why they can talk so openly about what they did to land there, because they got caught and they learned. Just because I know I&rsquo;m capable of cheating doesn&rsquo;t mean I want to do it.</p> <p>A lot of women will say not all men cheat, but where are the women who meet a man who cheats and believes not all men stay the same and make the same mistakes? We shouldn&rsquo;t forget before history repeats itself, it has to be made.</p> <p>For more nuanced perspectives on infidelity and relationship healing from a male viewpoint, see this <a href="https://blog.loveawake.com/2025/01/31/the-reckoning-of-love-why-women-in-2025-are-no-longer-settling-for-half-hearted-connection/" rel="dofollow">article on evolving love expectations in 2025</a>.&nbsp;</p> <div id="gtx-trans" style="position: absolute; left: 793px; top: 980.425px;">&nbsp;</div>